Mom Life

Everyday Glimpses {India Werner}

When I think of my everyday life, I think of busy days filled with love and laughter.  Every day holds its own kind of beauty.  It is true that there are hard days and hard seasons of life, but through each of these times, the Lord always gives us a reason to rejoice.  It has been my turn for a while to write a blog post on everyday life and to be honest, I wasn’t sure what to write about.  I finally decided to tell you about how we celebrated Paisley’s birthday last week. 😊

Sakshi (left) and Paisley (right)

Paisley turned three at the beginning of this month.  I don’t think I will ever forget the way that she came storming into the world.  I was only one day overdue, but extremely uncomfortable as I’d been having mild contractions for weeks.  When Paisley decided to make her appearance, she arrived after less than an hour of true labor!  Since then, she has continued with that fiery personality, which brings joy as well as mischief. 😉

Since this little girl of mine is one who just loves a good time, we decided to have a simple but fun day.  We let her pick what she wanted for breakfast (oatmeal) and then she and I spent the morning making her birthday cake.  I hadn’t been feeling too well so we just did a simple chocolate sheet cake with a glaze-type frosting.

For lunch we did something special.  Zack and I recently discovered a nice playground at an outdoor restaurant nearby.  We filed it in our memory bank for such an occasion.  Nice playgrounds here are few and far between, so the kids were absolutely thrilled to have a chance to play on one.

      When we got home, the kids took a nap and I made sure everything would be ready for cake and presents when they woke up.  Our cake-cutting was a bit humorous.  I had bought a confetti popper and Zack shot it off right when we were singing to Paisley.  There was a LOT of confetti in it, which went everywhere.  Sakshi loved it, Paisley was perturbed by it, and Thaddeus was afraid of it!  The cake ended up being covered in confetti, some of which we were able to blow off and some of which we ate.  We figured there were worse things we could ingest…

As far as presents go, I love giving and getting them.  It is hard for me to not go crazy buying presents, but I managed to keep it simple.  We got Paisley a little doll wearing Indian clothes and a new outfit.

At around 7:30 in the evening, some friends started showing up.  They knew it was Paisley’s birthday and wanted to “wish her”.  Thankfully I had plenty of cake to share with the roughly one dozen people who came.  They brought ice cream so our second cake-eating session was even sweeter.

I was reminded of how nice it is to keep things simple.  We didn’t have to spend a lot of money to give Paisley a fun day.  She loved every bit of her birthday and that is what mattered.  It was a special day to celebrate the precious life that God has blessed our family with.

Confessions of a Toddler Mom {India Werner}


             Today was one of THOSE days with the kids.  They’ve all three been a little fussier than usual because Zack has been out of town since this weekend, so naturally my mom and I have been looking for ways to distract them.  We came up with the genius (or so we thought) idea of going to the biggest mall in town that is not usually too crowded, letting them run off some energy, ride the train through the mall, and get a treat, of course.  My mom had my dad call one of his driver friends and everything was set up for us to leave after Thaddeus’ nap time.  It was going to be just perfect.

              Then the trouble started.  Thaddeus decided that he wanted to sit by the window (we don’t use car seats in India).  I made him sit in the middle and to put it mildly, he lost it.  High-pitched shrieks, screams…he even managed to squeeze out a few tears.  Right when we started to think that the mall idea was a bad one, the driver turned around and said pleasantly, but loudly, “What happened?”  For some reason, it startled Thaddeus into silence and he behaved for (almost) the whole ride to town.

              I have to add here, too, that this driver has a rather interesting voice.  He is a super nice guy but he might be a little scary to small children.  At one point while we were riding, Sakshi announced, “He has a really funny voice.”  My mom and I looked at each other nervously and tried not to laugh out loud.  Thankfully, the driver didn’t seem to register what she said.

              So, we finally got to the mall and got the double stroller out.  Instantly, Sakshi burst into tears when she realized that there was only enough room for Paisley and Thaddeus.  I won’t bore you with every last detail of every meltdown we experienced, but that’s just to give you an idea.

              The confession part of this story comes out when we get to the coffee shop.  The only thing we could find for Sakshi to eat was some chips, so we bought a bag for the kids to share, along with a bottle of juice.  We sat down at a table and opened the chips while we waited for our coffee.  The first problem was that they were too spicy for Thaddeus.  The second problem was that he happened to see the cookies that I had bought for myself.  When I told him that he couldn’t have them, he started pitching a fit – a REALLY loud one.

There were some guys at another table that were looking at us.  They didn’t look annoyed, but rather concerned about what could be ailing the poor child.  They were giving me looks that said “What are you doing to that baby to make him cry so pathetically?”

At this point, I must confess that I decided to throw any attempt at discipline down the drain.  I know, I know.  I’ve been reading two different parenting books this month.  I am generally a consistent mom when it comes to keeping the kids in line, but their behavior today wasn’t reflecting that at all!  I was tired and didn’t want to get kicked out of the coffee shop, so I tried doing all I could to appease him (except for giving up my cookies 😉 ).

My mom jumped up and bought some cookies to try to get him to be quiet.  At first it seemed to work, until I made the mistake of tasting Thaddeus’ cookies.  He went into some kind of psycho mode, taking his screaming to a new level.  I tried to do everything possible to appease him, and something finally worked.  He shut up and we breathed sighs of relief.

              I then started eating my own cookies and right away, Thaddeus saw that my cookies were different than his.  Here we go again.  The screaming continued as Sakshi’s scoop of ice cream arrived.  We had ordered her one once we realized that it was something they served that she wasn’t allergic to.  Right away, my mom ordered more ice cream in an attempt to stop the screaming.  It seemed like ages until they brought more ice cream, even though it was only like two minutes.

              And what do you know?

              Thaddeus was so mad about not getting my cookies that he wouldn’t eat the stinkin’ ice cream.

              This is the shortened version of the story, believe it or not.  Oh, and to end the story – Thaddeus also screamed the ENTIRE WAY HOME.

It was pretty much a parenting fail, but praise God for His mercy and grace!  Each day doesn’t look like this, and for that I am very thankful.  On one hand, I want to beat myself up for not making the effort and showing Thaddeus who was boss, but then there’s the flip side: Nobody is perfect, especially me.  We all have days where we lose the battle, but that’s okay – as long as we don’t let it become a habit.

And on a side note, I am proud to announce that I never let him have my cookies. #WINNING

Okay, to be honest, I almost didn’t share this picture. I look as exhausted as I was, and my arm looks strangely huge. 😛 It’s really a good depiction of what life is like with a 4, almost 3, and 1 year old, though. You’re going to be tired a lot, but you’re always surrounded by tiny humans who adore you.